Is It Possible To Change Your Partner's Behavior? How Much Should You Try To Change Your Spouse Or Partner?
Everyone has something they'd like to change in their partner. But is it possible to change your partner's behavior? How?
You only receive the love that you think you deserve.
The recognition of love that is denied by your partner is the recognition of love that you deny yourself.
If you are experiencing a troubled relationship, it is because you are co-creating it, day by day, through self-limiting beliefs, judgment, separation, as well as through the unconscious projections of your inner child.
Projections go hand in hand with the expectation of change: “I will change my partner’s behavior!”, but real healing begins and ends within ourselves.
When our healing is fully achieved, either our partner spontaneously changes, or we end our relationship. This is a natural happening: our reflection also changes if we change something within ourselves.
We can also decide to find another partner; in reality, if we do not heal and cleanse our projective mechanisms, our new partner will recite the same role, continuing to act as a mirror of our deepest emotional scars.
In any case, we do not have to remain involved in a romantic relationship at all costs if it becomes too painful or if our partner is abusive towards us.
If the decision to end a romantic relationship does not spring from the recognition and the healing of our projective dynamics, we will be continually attracted to partners who are only apparently different from their predecessors.
Sooner or later, our new partner will start to behave in a similar way to the previous one: this will continue to happen unless we heal what the projective mechanisms have caused us to internalize. To completely untie the bond with a partner, the mere act of physically leaving the relationship is not sufficient. The bond can only be untied by an inner act of consciousness and love.
Only in assuming co-responsibility (and not feeling guilty) can the relationship then be brought to its conclusion.
We no longer blame our partner for having been the cause of our pain. We no longer keep our mutual bond alive through the link of resentment. We free ourselves from the long shadow of a painful romantic relationship, only when the partner - whatever they have or have not done - is thanked and blessed from within our hearts, recognized as our mirror and honored as our master.
To recognize your partner as your projection beyond the illusion of separation is the act of consciousness through which the healing of your romantic relationship blossoms.
It is also the final act that frees us from the infinite, painful repetitive patterns of our romantic relationships.
When a romantic relationship ends, it may be that we do not become involved in a new relationship for some time.
Time, in this case, is indeed relative: it can be short, it can be long, it does not matter. This is the time that our soul has given us to learn how to honor and love ourselves. A time for learning to stop begging for love and to finally become the monarch that reigns in our own heart, where we no longer miss anything, because everything has already been given. It is crucial not to force time but simply let things happen: when the time comes, love will knock at our door.
Do not look for a new love: love yourself and let love find you.
Only then, will you realize if you have truly healed yourself from your projective mechanisms and your lack of self-love. If the inner healing is ultimately achieved, you will pass through the fire of passion without burning yourself, unconditionally loving your partner, with both passion and compassion. Instead of looking for love, you become Love.
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