Through dreams, feeling sensations or simply hearing a meaningful song on the radio while having a stressful day, your deceased loved ones attempt to connect with you after their passing.

There are many reasons why they return to visit, and you don’t have to be a medium or even go to one to experience the presence of a deceased loved one that you know personally.
In fact, it’s incredibly common.

These direct methods of communication can occur anywhere and at anytime, though they are most common when you are alone and aware of your surroundings to take notice. You can receive a sign when you are fully awake, in twilight state of dreaming and waking or in dream state.

With the ability to connect people and their deceased loved ones, I’ve come up with a list of the most common methods and techniques that your loved ones have used to visit you


1. Dream visitations

This is the most common way to be visited by those in Spirit, both by deceased loved ones and Spirit Guides. While you may talk yourself out of a ‘Spirit visitation’ dream even if you've had one, these types of dreams are much different than regular dreams.

In Spirit visitation dreams, a deceased loved one often enters the dream and is surrounded by some sort of light. In the dream, while they may talk to you or ask you to deliver messages, they will usually offer some sort of comfort that they are okay, everything is peaceful and that they made it to the Other Side comfortably.

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2. Sensing their presence

Many people report sensing the presence of their loved one around them after their passing.

You might notice a shift when they are around – either a change in the energy or actual movement in the air. Perhaps at night, you notice pressure in the bed next to you, as if someone got into bed with you, or you might feel like someone is sitting next to you in the evenings while you read a book. This is a common type of visit. If you were very close with the person you feel is visiting and you were able to notice their presence while they were alive – you still have this ability after they have shifted from physical into Spirit form.

They are the same essence they were with body, and now, without body.

3. Feeling their touch

A hug, a brush of your hair, holding your hand, or a gentle touch on your back – these are some of the most comforting forms of connection that can happen.

Feeling their touch is most common to sense in the days directly following your deceased loved one’s passing, however, some of those in Spirit do continue to visit, long after their passing, using the ability of perceived touch. This ability to touch can also manifest in feeling them not touch you, but an object near you, for instance, noticing someone sit or lay down in the bed next to you.

4. Smelling their fragrance

The ability to smell the fragrance from a deceased loved one or Spirit is called clairgustance.

These visits commonly reported as the fragrance of cigarette or cigar smoke, perfume, flowers, or cooking. If you smell cigar smoke, and no one smokes in your house, except your deceased grandfather – chances are, it’ him and he’s letting you know he’s around, visiting, and saying hello.

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5. Hearing their voice

This is called clairaudience. It is possible to hear the voice of your deceased loved one externally, as though they are actually speaking to you in human form, or internally, through thought or word transference. Internal clairaudience is the most common way to ‘hear a voice’, as the hearing happens inside your mind. Why? Those in Spirit no longer have a voice box - so creating an external noise is very hard.

Do you talk to your husband, grandmother, or best friend on the Other Side, in your mind?

Take a moment, and wait to see if you can hear a response. Usually, you can.

6. Unexpected electrical activity

We all have energy and energy runs through all things, including electrical devices.

For those on the Other Side, not only is it fun to learn how to use energy to connect - many of those in Heaven learn that the energy in electrical devices is quite easy to manipulate.

For this reason, it is actually quite common for those in Spirit to manipulate TV, lights and toys to get your attention. They can turn things on and off, change channels, and make things move.

Songs on the radio, that are meaningful to you or your lost loved one, are a favorite way for those on the Other Side to deliver to you messages that you may need to hear - right at that exact moment, with electricity.

7. A phone call

The day after my father passed over, I received several phone calls, from unknown numbers, with nothing but static on the other line. While discussing this event with friends, they recounted similar experiences, in the days following the passing of their loved ones. Since a phone is an electrical object, manipulating the energy to make a phone call is not much different than other electrical activity. This sign could occur in the months or years following the crossing of a loved one, it seems to be most common in immediate days following the transition.

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8. Receiving a symbolic message, sign, coincidence or synchronicity

Your deceased loved ones are often very eager to let you know they are part of your life and with you when you least expect it.

While many people can feel their deceased loved ones watching over them, sometimes, it’s hard to be that perceptive, or to be that sure that what we felt was really what we thought it was. So, those in Spirit will provide us with signs that we cannot ignore. Once you receive this type of sign, time and time again, you will know this is a message from the Other Side – and don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise!

The signs can and will come to you in a variety of ways, and the key is keep your eye open for synchronicities and anything out of the ordinary.

9. Movement

Sometimes, those in Spirits will move objects to get your attention. Does the same photograph keep falling? Is the same thing always being ‘misplaced’ or ‘lost’ while in your possession? Consider this method of communication, as it is most commonly sent to those whose attention it's hard to reach. Also, moving objects will often times create noise, which can startle your awareness, too!

10. Seeing an apparition (flat photo, hologram, partial, full)

Believe it or not, seeing an apparition, while you are awake, with your eyes open, is one of the least common methods on this list. Though it’s the most widely cited in popular media, due to it’s shock value, it’s quite rare.
But just because your deceased loved one isn’t appearing to you in full ghost form yet, doesn’t mean they haven’t attempted contact in one of the many other methods on this list.
Many people find that visits from their loved ones are common and plenty in the days, weeks, and months following a loved ones passing, but they can continue for years. This happens when you have a child, soulmate, or life partner pass away early on and they stay with you until you both finish your soul path on this life. This is normal.

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8 Signs A Deceased Loved One Is Contacting You In Your Dreams

True “visitation dreams” are actually very easy to identify because they are very different than “everyday dreams.” Characteristics of most (but not all) visitation dreams include the following:

Characteristic #1

The most important characteristic of a true visitation dream is that it feels “real.” It will also be very vivid.

Characteristic #2

If you have to ask whether the visitation dream was really a visitation dream, then it probably was NOT a visitation dream. They are so real and vivid that you won’t have to ask this question. When you do have a visitation dream, you may wonder if it was truly real; but in your heart or gut, you will “know” it was real.

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Characteristic #3

Because they are so real and so vivid, you will remember visitation dreams very clearly for days, months, years . . . probably for your entire lifetime!

Characteristic #4

The person (or animal) will almost always appear in the dream to be completely healthy and behaving in a loving manner. They will rarely appear sick or injured. They will never be angry, disappointed, depressed, or punishing. They will be “whole, complete, and perfect” because they are now reconnected with God/Source energy.

Characteristic #5

Whether or not they speak to you verbally in the dream, they will communicate very clearly. (NOTE: As you’ll see in the next two examples, in neither of the dreams did actual verbal communication occur; the messages were conveyed telepathically and were completely clear.)

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Characteristic #6

When they do communicate (either verbally or non-verbally), it isn’t because they want to engage in idle “chit-chat.” It isn’t easy for deceased loves ones to enter a dream. They come with a purpose, and they will convey the message and then be gone.

Characteristic #7

Most often, their messages fall into the category of “reassurance.” They come to let you know that they are fine and that they want you to be happy. Occasionally, they will come with a warning; however, when giving a warning, they will give you loving support and you will feel reassured by their presence.

Characteristic #8

After a visitation dream, when you wake up, you will often be filled with a sense of peace and love.

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Some examples of visitation dreams

It may help to read about two of my dreams that I know were true “visitation dreams”:

I had a visitation dream from my mother about 20 years ago, and I can still recall it vividly to this day. My mother passed when I was only 17 years old, and at the time of this writing, I’m 52. This visitation dream occurred during a time when I was undergoing a great deal of stress and was worried about what was going to happen. The dream was set in the house where we last lived together, although it didn’t look exactly the same (e.g., the ceiling/roof was transparent). In the dream, there was a tree located behind the house that, in real life, didn’t exist. There was a huge storm raging outside the house, and the wind was uprooting this very large tree, which was about to crash through the roof and onto the place where I was standing. The tree was so large that I knew there was no way I could move out of the way in time. At that point in the dream, my mother appeared a short distance in front of me. We were facing each other.

She suddenly held her hands above her head in an open Y shape. I watched in fear as the tree came crashing through the roof toward us both. But before it hit us, the tree split in two pieces and fell on either side of us. From the moment she appeared in the dream, she was staring into my eyes. She didn’t say a word, but she very clearly communicated to me that all would be well in my waking world, and she was going to do what she could to protect me during this stressful time in my life.

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Another visitation dream happened in July of this year, a week after I had to put my 16.5 year old cat, Yoda, to sleep. In the dream, I woke up to find my hand on a cat’s back. I felt the soft fur and assumed it was our other cat, Magic. But when I looked down, it was Yoda. Even though I was dreaming, I realized that she was dead. I looked at her quizzically and asked silently how this could be. She looked up at me with great love and then I realized that she didn’t look like she looked when I last saw her. Her coat was soft and glossy. She was a normal weight.

But most important were her eyes (notice how my mother’s eyes were also important in the last dream). Yoda had been a feral cat. She was terrified of everyone and everything. Even with me (the one person she allowed to be close to her), Yoda’s eyes had always been filled with apprehension and tension. In the dream, her eyes showed only love and peacefulness. Her body was relaxed and calm. Her eyes and body language communicated to me that she was fine now. This dream felt so real that when I eventually woke up, I was sure that if I looked down beside me, Yoda would be there. From that point on, I have felt totally at peace about her passing.

Can you ask for a visitation dream? Yes, you certainly can!

Before going to sleep, spend time thinking about the deceased loved one and ask him or her to come visit you in your dream state. You may also want to ask your guides or other spiritual helpers to assist this person to come to you clearly.

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However, please don’t become discouraged if the person doesn’t come to you. They want to, but there are many reasons why a deceased loved one may not show up when requested. For example, the soul may be relatively new at entering dreams and may not know how to do it. Or your guides know that you want to know something that your deceased loved one can’t tell you because you need to find the answer for yourself.

But there’s no harm in asking for him or her to come visit with you! And when visitation dreams do occur, be sure to thank your deceased loved one for coming and send them love and gratitude for taking the time to visit with you.

An Angelic Prayer for the Healing of Grief

An Angelic Prayer for comfort in time of loss. For those who have lost loved ones and are in need of healing and peace.

May your heart be comforted and lifted by this Angelic Prayer!


Dear Angel,

please, help my loved ones who have passed away to have a smooth and peaceful transition back home to heaven. Help me remember them with love and gratitude rather than with pain and despair. Please, relieve the pain caused by their deaths. Fill my void and heal my grieving heart. Help me regain peace and joy in the knowledge that their souls sweetly rest in the arms of heaven’s angels. Please, let them know that they are infinitely loved and shine my endless love upon their souls.


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